“I find that the harder I work, the more good fortune I seem to have.” ~Thomas Jefferson It’s so easy to blame “fate” (or a traumatic past) for the way things turn out for us. Year ago, I met a woman who avoided taking responsibility for herself, always waiting for “The Universe” to provide what she needed. She often used phrases such as, “If it’s meant to be, it will happen,” and usually failed to get what she needed. Magical thinking can be lots of fun, and yes, sometimes circumstances are beyond our control. But waiting for fate or unseen forces to intervene won’t accomplish the steps needed to help…