The art of disappointing others
“If you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won’t like you. It may not be easy, but it’s essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs.” ~Cheryl Richardson
Have you ever attended an event you dreaded because you didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings? Do you ever withhold your opinion — or agree with an opposing viewpoint — because you fear rejection or criticism? How many times do you say “Yes” out of obligation rather than enthusiasm? Do you always put the needs of others before your own? Would you rather be liked than respected?
Today’s quote is guaranteed to stir uncomfortable feelings — especially if you’re a people-pleaser. I struggled with the idea of “disappointing others” when I first read it in Cheryl Richardson’s bestseller, The Art of Extreme Self Care, several years ago. But I highlighted the paragraph, and its message still informs some of my difficult decisions today. ~CL
Cindy La Ferle
Throughout my career, I've worked as a book production editor, travel magazine editor, features writer, and weekly newspaper columnist. My award-winning lifestyles features and essays have appeared in many national magazines and anthologies, including Newsweek, Reader's Digest, The Christian Science Monitor, Writer's Digest, Victoria, Better Homes & Gardens, Bella Grace, and more. My weekly Sunday "Life Lines" column ran for 14 years in The Daily Tribune (Royal Oak, MI) and won a First Place (Local Columns) award from the Michigan Press Association. My essay collection, Writing Home, includes 93 previously published columns and essays focusing on parenthood and family life.
