Complainers versus problem-solvers

“When you consistently maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll become known as a problem-solver rather than a complainer. Mentally healthy people avoid complainers. They seek out problem-solvers.” ~ Joseph Sommerville, PhD, The Five Keys to Interpersonal Success

Are you a complainer or a problem-solver? According to behavioral research, if you spend a significant amount of time with complainers and doomsayers, you’re probably sporting a negative attitude, too. When complaining becomes the norm — at home, in the workplace, or in social circles — it’s hard to break the pattern.

Negativity is as contagious as it is demoralizing. As renowned psychologist Susan Albers puts it, complaining is like a virus. It infects the mood of everyone around us. But here’s the good news: Spending time with positive people — or problem solvers — can improve your outlook as well as your physical health. So before you launch another complaint or plan your next pity party, ask yourself: Will my complaining solve a problem or improve the situation? Is my negative attitude benefitting or spoiling my relationships? ~CL