Everyone’s favorite mom

Friends are relatives you make for yourself.”  ~Eustache Deschamps

Do you remember a special mom in your neighborhood whose influence made a difference when you were growing up?  An othermother? For me, it was Evie Carnahan, the mother of one of my best friends from Clawson Junior High. As an only child in a quiet household, I was grateful to Ev for periodically “adopting” me and giving me a glimpse of what it’s like to be part of a big family. After her funeral last month, I was moved to write a tribute to Ev — and our lifelong friendship. The column runs this week on both Clawson and Royal Oak Patch sites. Please click here to read it.

The photo at left was taken at Pronto! in Royal Oak, where I met with Ev and the “Carnahan sisters” to celebrate Ev’s 80th birthday nearly two years ago. Ev’s in the bottow row, far left.

8 thoughts on “Everyone’s favorite mom

  1. What a lovely piece Cindy! She sounds like quite a woman! I never had anyone like that as a child but as a grown woman, single, living alone I had a boy friend who only lasted a year but he gave me his family (long story). I was so alone and sad but I could always go to to their home, eat and hang out with a very vibrant family. They are like my second family, the best of family really since we don’t fight. I’m so sorry for your loss. So much lately- hugs.

  2. I had two good friends in junior and senior high school, and I spent a lot of time at their homes. It was great to be part of loving, happy families, even if for short periods of time. My thoughts are with you and Evie’s family as you remember her life and love ~

  3. So many women mothered me through the years. My own mom was so young, she couldn’t always give the kind of wise caring my friends’ moms did. In my 20s I had an older friend, my mom’s age, with many children of her own. She mothered me in her own way, as well.

  4. Thanks so much for all of these thoughtful comments — here and on the Royal Oak and Clawson Patch sites. I’ve promised the Carnahan sisters that I would share all of the comments with them too. They’ll be happy to know that “Evie” touched so many people this week — even those who didn’t have the honor of knowing her personally. Thanks again.

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